Hello lovelies. Has it been a while? I guess it has. Last time I shared a bit of my trip down Memory Lane and hope you’ll all saw how cute I was. I am soon going to be bringing back that cuteness, don’t ask how but brace yourselves for it.A minute before I started writing here I just thought that I love how I am able to express my thoughts here, I have always thought that keeping to myself is easier but then I realized that my mind is like Pandora’s box. I don’t hold many evils to be unleashed but I just got a lot going on up there (my mind that is)..🐒.Whoever reads this always know I appreciate it. It’s my way of being social when verbally doing so gets too difficult for me.
So there is this thought that I have pondered over for quite a while now. Talked to my sister about it and I may not have everything figured about it yet and probably may never have everything concerning it but I am gonna let on what I have. Am turning twenty this year, the big 2 0.Probably not as exciting really because nothing big happens at twenty for most and if there is, it’s probably the start where you feel a bit maturer leaving teens and all. I am excited about turning twenty. This is souly because it gets me closer to two things:being a mother as you all know🤰and being married 👰.Do you want to be married or marry in the future?That’s your question to answer.I keep saying I will soon crash a wedding of total strangers because people no longer do weddings and have that whole celebration and if you listened to their reasons for not doing weddings ,out of this world 🙄 but no judging, okay maybe a little.
I know people who are married.We all do. My million dollar question is why do you marry or get married to your ‘better half’s’ because I believe everyone who puts a ring on it does it to their better halves and their soul mates. You know, to love for better and for poorer, for sicker and for health till death do us part…. Do you know those vows and if not, am sure you heard them somewhere, right 🤔?Why do people really take these vows lately because I am beginning to doubt it’s for the right reasons that they are tying themselves down to people who two three years down the line, they can’t stand to be in the same room as. Probably I don’t know what am talking about (the married would think) but actually, it doesn’t take rocket science to see that marriage is no longer a union of people who have build each other and grown to love each other as humans and as partners and are willing to spend the rest of their lives together. Lately, things are said as they are. Marriage is nowadays for convenience or probably misinterpreted love. Not all marriages are like this by the way. There are people out there who do get married for the right reasons and out of love. For others,well..it’s not exactly the same case.
I wanted to do a serious and honest research from spouses around me of the reasons they put a ring on it but then I saw, probably most won’t be honest with me thinking I am an immature nineteen year old with nothing better to do than poke around in people’s business .So I opted to write what I see things as. Marriage is sacred at the start, until the spouses can’t seem to keep it in their pants or their marriage.Cheating always starts with a thought.Even before you do cheat, it’s a manifested thought that you want to put into action for God knows what reasons.I read somewhere on twitter the reasons why men really marry and only married men can tell if this is true. A few men said they settled down with the girl they were dating then because it was about time and age was catching up with them. Out of convenience you see😏.They settled because they needed the pressure of marriage to be off their shoulders so the current girlfriend had to do. Others said they got married because they got the girl pregnant and weren’t as lucky as to escape the already knitted web they got themselves in. I asked my man a question the other day,I asked him if I got pregnant by him today, would he walk or would he stick by me and I got a really interesting answer. ‘My mother raised no wimp’. To say I was pleased would be true, I just hope he would keep to his words if it came to that but not just yet. Another lot of men said that they got married out of family pressure for grand kids and a family of their own and now they are struggling so hard to be the perfect husband to their wives and dad but their hearts are else where. Men need motivation to be with women. They may not realize it but a marriage stops being a marriage when one of the spouses stops loving each other. It leads to cheating, drinking and possibly battering .
I don’t want to fall into the same pit when I finally decide to settle with someone. I want it to be for the right reasons. For love.If your out there and want to get married and you know we’ll in your heart it’s not for the right reasons, don’t tie yourself down only to hate yourself and your spouse later out of frustration. It’s not worth your while. Anyway, I hope this is more of an eye opener for everyone who reads this. Chao peeps .