Today I had a very meaningful conversation with a close friend of mine who really got me seeing things a little better than I was previously. This year I turn twenty-one and it’s been one of the most exciting feelings I have had. I don’t exactly have a special reason for feeling this about turning 21 years but it’s always felt like the bridge I needed to cross into fully embracing growth & adulting. Though, I didn’t think it would come this fast but here I am now.

The conversation I had today felt & legitimately was those eye opening kind of conversations that sorta are life changing in some way but you gotta internalize what exactly you want to change. This is me internalizing.

I got to see a certain aspect differently and it got me thinking…I got my first tattoo newly right after highschool at eighteen and it’s not your average kind of thing for someone newly just legal and still living entirely under their parents supervision. At least not in Kenya that is. Apart from that, it’s not really a secret that I am a bit vast in sex technically…

p.s It’s a bit embarrassing saying it like that. So anyway, simply what I’m trying to point out is that I have experienced and done quite a couple things that a larger majority of people my age have not and I have always known that about myself & felt good about it. Despite it all, today I got to feel that maybe I just might have grown up a little bit faster than I should have initially done.

In my case, I believe I gained a lot of freedom being raised for the past seven years by my dad alone. Him being a very cool down to earth kind of guy didn’t really put pressure on either me or my sister in those couple years we have been just the three of us. Honestly, I knew my father wouldn’t fret about me getting a tattoo cause we had come to a cordial understanding that after I completed highschool, whatever decision I would make that would be major or life changing would completely fall on me. I would be sourly responsible for it and take full responsibility of the consequences as well. For that, I am sourly grateful for his trust in me to make right choices for myself.

With turning twenty one, a lot of things feel quite overwhelming for me. I’m at a point in my life, everything feels like its moving a tad too fast for me. I’ve always sorta known that I was an early maturer, not just physically but mentally and intellectually as well. I think cause of that fact, I have missed a couple of stages I should have rightfully experienced according to age. When I say that I feel like everything is moving a tad too fast for me its not necessarily in the Kylie Jenner kind of way of owning a multi million business. This is completely personal for me. I have given a lot of priority to so many things that shouldn’t have exactly been a priority for me at this exact period of time. I have just recently honestly decided to quit worrying too much about getting a child at this exact age and getting a father for that child along with it. I have previously expressed my yearning for having my own child and how much I can’t wait to be a mum and it took quite a lot of therapy and advice to tone it down and see it wasn’t the piece of cake I thought it would be. Again, I was so driven by my yearning to get a child and it made me reckless in wanting a partner. I felt like I needed to put myself out there and shuffle through different ways of meeting potential men worth being life partners and possible baby daddies. All this, I have been doing while being between nineteen years old & recently turning twenty.

This year was my year of blooming and it drove me to be so sexually curious about so much. I have been going kink crazy, even as far as going on a date with a dominant man. All this is what I’m simply summing up as all the things I have been busy going nuts over trying to get done and I have not had a chance to simply enjoy being young and not worrying so much. The conversation I had gave me a chance to see that maybe I should allow myself to take it down a notch and simply live. I’ve been racing with time cause I wanted to start popping babies early and it’s pushed to trying to get the right guy and honestly now that I think about it, I’ve been running around like a headless chicken trying to get things done before I age too fast. Its not easy for me to just simply up and drop everything I have been so intent on achieving. It’s overwhelming now when I realize I need to live and be young and just be twenty years old.

I believe a lot of things of how I have been growing beyond my time would be different if my mum was around. I don’t mean to say that my life choices suck or I’m a wreck cause I don’t have her around ,what I mean to say is, had I had her with me, my life would be completely different in every aspect and I have always known that. Now that I know and want to slow down, I am grateful to have had that eye opening moment to learn that I shouldn’t rush life and should take it a step at a time. This for me, is what I now truly feel as me blooming and growing. ✌🏿

4 thoughts on “…Take it down a notch

  1. you know dawn.. when my dad left my mom had to work twice as hard to support an infant.. what I’ll tell you is.. it is possible for you to be grown and also enjoy your youthfulness.. but don’t ever feel like you being mature to a certain level is a disadvantage. one step at a time… also. pray for a life partner and trust me you’ll know when they show up.@kel

  2. Your friend is amazing – because she is so right. Sometimes we get so excited about reaching the destination we forget about the journey. Life IS a journey, so enjoy the small and beautiful things that make your heart sing. There’s time enough to let the best/right person into your life without going through the ugliness of the wrong ones.

    I have SO much hope and faith in you – and I suspect that your Mom was listening in on this conversation. Bless you, my friend!

    1. Thank you for that great piece of advice. I am so grateful for your constantl encouragement and advice. I am now allowing myself to take time to enjoy my youth without rushing. I’m grateful I had that moment of enlightenment.

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